boys :)

confession # 2 : I have the best guy-bestfriends ever.

I grew up with guys. I have no siblings and a lot of the neighborhood kids were boys or at least they were the least girly of girls. And I spent all my time with them (surprise, surprise!). So naturally, I was closest friends with precisely these guys. For reasons I’m yet to discover, I cannot tolerate being friends with girly girls. I know I act like one for most part, but I can’t tolerate their company. So I chose to hang out with guys, because honestly speaking, they’re a lot less to deal with than the everyday tantrums and emotional trauma that typical girls come up with.

So, I’m not sure when this wonderful thought dawned on me, but I have some of the best guy friends on the face of the earth. And I’ve always have interesting relationships with them. We NEVER dated – though there were awkward times when I’ve discussed a prospective relationship with a couple of them. Talk about being awkward! But, more often we’d just sit around discussing the most random subjects one could think of. These guys are there to sit back and watch a game of cricket or football, have a couple of drinks, laugh over stupid things and talk about things that my girly friends would find so frikking odd! They’re the ones who’ll give me a completely honest opinion, about everything, even if it’s something I don’t wanna hear. They’re the ones who talk to my face, not behind my back. They’ll laugh, but they’re totally ok if I wear funny colored pants that look hilarious under a flowery t-shirt. With them, I have had my most memorable thoughts, my most beautiful smiles, my most painful tears, my most irritating tantrums and definitely my most cherished times. And more than anything, they make me smile, laugh my heart out and make my days worth it. Which, btw is the best feeling ever!

I can’t tell how many times I’ve been asked by other people if I’m dating any of them. People even thought I was dating multiple guys at once! I’ve been frustrated so many times at trying to explain to people that I’m just friends with these guys. They eventually shut up, but I never could get around convincing them. And frankly, I don’t give a damn either. I’d rather take this than sit around all day with other typical girls bitching about whose dress sense is pathetic, which color to paint my nails or how huge I’ve grown from eating just one sugar-donut.

And I love how it’s never awkward, not even when topics get a little, for lack of a better term, raunchy. And sometimes they’re so comfortable around me, it’s like they’ve ignored the fact that I’m actually a girl. They always have made me laugh more than a whole lot of other people I’ve met. Anyway, I can’t imagine – and frankly don’t want to even contemplate - life without those guy-girl, non-dating experiences – life without guy friends like mine.

And it’s so annoying, especially when you’re approached by your desi relatives, to be enquired about such relationships. They pretend like they understand, but all they end up doing is to segregate you and lessen your interaction with the opposite sex. It’s upsetting how natural male-female relationships can be perverted through gender segregation. Talk about being conservative! Such restriction, I feel, only increases your desperation to get into a romantic relationship, even if that’s not exactly what you want. Then, the unique brand of joy, of personal growth and of plain old fun that is only available in opposite sex friendships is squeezed out.

But I’ll say this: I have never dreamed of dating any of my guy friends, but I can’t imagine being happy in a future relationship without having experienced life with them or understanding what guys truly are from a friends point of view. My friends have kept me insanely-sane in our very own fun way and I’m glad about our friendship, and our life spent together having all the fun under the sun. :)